You realize people's mental and emotional health is important... just as much as their physical health is, right?
No, he isn't dead in a ditch from a tornado. Yes, he is physically fine
insofar as we know. That does not mean he is all right! Anything could have happened or be happening to him! Knowing that his sister's blog post was in 2009 gives less closure.
Aaaack.
RAMChYLD Wrote:Well, I was reluctant to post it's name because said friend who unearthed that was reluctant to post it to the thread discussing said friend's disappearance at another forum I'm in. Plus, apparently in the US, this condition carries a mixed connotation. Perhaps anywhere in the world for that matter. I'm considering undergoing diagnosis myself given that I realized how some of the symptoms listed on Wikipedia applies to me, but then someone pointed out that if positively diagnosed, I may lose my job. May, because I do not know what is my company's policy towards employees with special needs. Right now they just think I'm a bit of a weird mad scientist genius.
Unfortunately, people associate it with being a selfish jerk, which isn't what it is at all, hence the discrimination added to the prejudice given by default of being disabled.
The thing that qualifies me for the work I want is the same thing that makes people not want me to get involved. That is just plain suspicious. "But isn't that illegal?" Yeah, but I'd have to prove discrimination and, regardless of if I could, I'm not going to work for people who clearly do not want me around.
I'm not even a mad scientist genius, not by a long shot, which is kind of bad for me since that is all the majority thinks we are worth due to society valuing so-called male qualities over so-called female qualities. You at least are in the "proper" field for us. Ben at least has some engineering background. I am too feminine to function. *throws hands in the hair*
Every job I have ever worked and every job I have ever applied for is a
pink-collar job, and the same applies to my teenage daughter and our mutual friend who is my distant relative also on the you-know-what spectrum. The same applies to most females in the western world, in general. Pink-collar jobs pay less than blue-collar jobs and certainly less than white-collar jobs.
Pink-collar jobs are
very social in nature. I wouldn't want to work outside this zone because I would be so much more useless. But because pink-collar jobs are social in nature and you-know-what* is misinterpreted as primarily a social deficiency (as opposed to being a cognitive disability that doesn't impact academic performance**), guess what bunches of women are usually jobless?
Now add that to the fact that most people are not wealthy enough to get the college degree(s) to have a white-collar job even if they are male and even if they are good with technology. Supposedly, I'm friggin'
worthless because I am the most pink-collar oriented ASD woman I know who also has ridiculous ADHD impulses and a math disability, so yeah, I'm the most freaking worthless person in town according to the world who thinks we are only worth something if we know anything about advanced math and science and technology which I do not and only if we are always logical which I am not!
Oh, I know I'm not really worthless. I at least hope I know I'm not really worthless. It is hard not to feel that way.
I'm going to trudge off and be sour now.
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Why are we suddenly calling it this???? We didn't before!
**
Most people's academic performances are not impacted; I also have an unrelated math disability
My definition of closure may be different, but we shouldn't be talking about what one's definition of closure is. The important issue is our friend.