Original Grapes looks like an angry drunk in this picture. Oh well.
Speaking of Grapes and drinking, since I named her father Riesling Wine (after a drink made from "Germany's greatest grape"), my father's name is the same as Sandy and Angel's little brothers. It's actually Vilhelm, a German version of the name William, but he goes by Bill.
I forgot what I wanted to say.
Oh yes, something deep and depressing. :lol: Forget it! Angel is back and Sandy wrote -
Oh, Sandy! This isn't what I was going to say, but I keep forgetting to tell you that I saw the graphic novel version of The Metamorphosis! Our local library is getting lots of new books in.
And I have a kidney infection! Aaaaah! It's mild (for now), so hopefully I won't need surgery.
And I'll say the depressing bit I wanted to say, anyway. The last sentence in one of the library's new books was about how girls should be raised to look at themselves from the inside out, not the outside in. Yeeeees, of course, and all people should look at themselves that way. But - what if you are a hypocrite? What if you tell others to see themselves that way, and fail to see yourself that way? What if you see yourself as a person of such an endless number of personality flaws and worry that looking at yourself from the inside out would only make you a worse person than you already are?
Even if and/or when you don't see yourself as a person of endless flaws, what if you worry you will slip into being a person of endless flaws if you forgo caring about what others think of you?
I realize it is a matter of balance. I always was clumsy.
What I
need to do is stop thinking that most people are by default morally better than me. It's hard when you've spent a lifetime thinking that kind of thing. I could look at all the good I've done, but I don't want to be conceited. . . . .
And all this begs the question, how can I raise confident children and a confident niece if I am not confident? Well, the same way I can instill confidence in students without being confident myself. I just can. It is just a natural talent I have, against all odds, perhaps proof that I'm meant for greater good than I even now know. I cannot, however, teach myself.
James often lacks confidence himself, and while he believes in me, we usually wind up being supports for each other. Half the confidence James does have is practical, and I already have that confidence. The other half is confidence James has earned that I feel I have not earned. Ben's confidence is exactly the kind of thing that I'm afraid I have somewhere inside me. Dee's confidence is something it seems I simply cannot have because I am not like most women. I do not have the "woman's intuition" she believes all women have. ("When you look in James' eyes, what do you see?" "Um. My reflection.") She thinks all women can look in men's eyes and know what they are thinking. I sure can't!
"[Something something something]. It's called Woman's Intuition. You have it somewhere inside!"
"Honey, I wasn't born with Woman's Intuition. I was born with Woman's Whininess."
After I said that, a lot of men laughed. This sort of blunt humor is one of many reasons why I've always been a "One of the Guys" female, despite being feminine in style and a lot of interests. I'm "One of the Guys" who happens to not be a tomboy. A rare creature. Come capture it. No, don't capture it.
I talk so much. :lol: